Being Alone

Tik Tok makes being alone look so cute with face masks, coffees, reading and going on walks. 

Yes that is 15% of what it is really like and it's great. 

Nobody talks about the dread of waking up and wondering how you are going to fill your time and even the time you are doing nothing how uncomfortable it is. A little secret to tell you where it feels uncomfortable is where the best things happen. Being alone is actually one of the scariest things to choose to be. To spend time with just you and your thoughts to really think about your day, who you saw and what you are going to do is rare. No one knows you as well as you do so why don't you get to know yourself and create a world within yourself where you love to be. I'm not saying you sit there and think "I'm gonna be alone" no it doesn't work like that. 

Things happen where you end up alone, people leave, mental health illness occur or you could simply move away from home on your own. This can be mental and physically speaking. It's sometimes a decision to take a break from negative people and detach yourself from those people. There are so many negative connotations with 'being lonely' and that 'it's embarrassing' and who said it was?

Why is going to movies, eating out or going shopping on your own feel like such a crime?

It has been made into this embarrassing thing. Not having time for ourselves or even having a solo date every now and then is more embarrassing. It's cool and attractive if you ask me. That first step is a struggle but you can do it, the best part comes getting to know yourself.

Have you ever thought about what I like to do? What hobbies do I have? What music do I dance to in my room when no one is watching? If you don't know that's completely fine and completely normal too, not everyone does. Not many of us ask ourselves these questions. I never used to.

This is the exciting part of getting to know yourself, your stronger self. Personally for me I never realised how much time I spent on my own and after being in a relationship for so long I lost all my fire over time. I couldn't physically be alone, you don't want to end up like that. I don’t want you to.  A lot of people end up at that point in their lives when they fall in love. Learning who I am and what I need and how fun it is to have as much time as I do with others was the biggest turn.

You make mistakes along the way not releasing certain behaviour traits from not being able to be comfortable in your space. Being alone and getting to know yourself is the biggest superpower someone can hold. Every now and then you have bumps where you don't feel as powerful with controlling your peace, you are human at the end of the day remember.

Don't forget it's great to have connections with people and surround yourself with people as much as you do spend time with yourself because with that you radiate the best energy of yourself.

After all, what would we be without human connection?