The Strange Comfort of Things We Own

As people we can become defined by what we own very easily. Our status can change. Who is better? We think if we have the nicest car, a certain type of clothing or have a perfect smile and juicy lips that we are cured. We are liked and accepted. But we think this is by others. But it's not us. To impress us to feel a sense of validation. That we are ‘this person’. We have nice things.

What happens when looks fade and things break? Are we starting from the beginning?

I like having nice things and a bit of luxury as much as the next person but it doesn't define who I am. With the internet and social media in our literal pockets it can be easy to know what the ideal is. We are shown it every signal day. To push you to buy products and things to ‘make us feel better’. 

It can come from a place of insecurity and a way to hide but to others they either don't care enough to notice or think it is odd. Chasing things that aren't in your path right now. 

And how are we affording this lifestyle? I would love to know girl to girl. If so we all would love a piece. It is not viable and realistic. 

More so when I was single, shopping made me happy. If I had invested in things to make me look a certain way it made me feel good, but looking back I was lost. Trying to be this thing that wasn't real. None of my friends were even doing the same things, so why did I? I don't envy that girl, I am enough being the girl who likes sitting with a scrunchie in her hair wearing cat pj's reading my book. That is the reality and so much more comfortable may I add.

The feeling of chasing is exhausting. Especially as young women we feel there is something to prove. To be independent but have a house, car, pets and look after yourself is exhausting. Why does it matter what it all looks like, take the brand away and products and focus on how it feels. A home is supposed to be a safe space and so is yourself. 

As a society it is too easy to look for the next best thing, but to remember you are the best thing and are next. You don't need things to make you feel valid or prove yourself to anyone, even yourself. As cringe as it sounds being you is enough and the people around you will appreciate that more than someone hiding.