Why Wouldn't I Spend Time With My Partner, What Is Healthy

There can be a stigma of how much time you spend with your partner when you are young in a relationship. 

That you can spend too much time with them. Make sure you prioritise your education. Make time for your friends. These are things that I have heard many times from other people and from my own experience. And too right you should consider these when being in a relationship 100%. 

But why can't you have balance and still have your partner as a priority. Everyone's scope is different and as we get older priorities start to change. We can lose friends throughout our life and make new ones. We leave education and go into the working world. And our time starts to lessen when we get busier so making our partner a priority is important. 

Those ideals and expectations on how much time can put pressure on yourself and your relationships. There's some who have to do long distance in stages of their life or can be permanent. There's some who haven't had the best run of friends and are more prone to spend time with their partner. And last of all some of us have to build a family with their partner due to family dynamics or not having one in the first place. 

Your partner is a person who is the future. The person you move out with, explore the world and probably make a family with. Having a person that is a best friend and lover in one. Trust me it is important to have both. This is someone you want to be your partner for the rest of your life, marriage and not. 

If they make you happy, feel safe and bring all the giggles and calmness, why wouldn't you want to spend your time with them. Spending time with others that bring disappointment, uncertainty and are socially draining, feels like a kick in the teeth.

If seeing each other everyday or a couple of times a week suits you and makes you happy that is healthy. That is a healthy boundary between two people who have decided how this relationship is going to be. If there is respect and praise for them, why can't we give grace to those who are choosing to spend most of their time with their lover?

There is nothing to be embarrassed about wanting to be with your partner. It is something more people admire. To have a closeness and how lucky is it to have that? 

As you get older you start to realise the pressures of how your relationship looks and feels change. And choosing to spend your time with your partner is one of them. When you get older you are selective who you spend your time with. You can have a balance of all these things, friends, work and family. I wish someone had said to myself when I was younger to take all these things into account  but make sure you are choosing wisely who you spend your time with. And if that's my partner, so be it. 

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