The Perfect Girl Mould

So I am here to give you the perfect girl mould guide.

First of all your skin needs to be flawless make sure you keep up that skincare no one likes acne or stretch marks. Glass skin, you might not even need makeup, that will make you even better. 

Make sure you are perfectly shaven because when did women have body hair? Don't forget the peach fuzz on your face too, it will look bad in pictures and cling to your makeup. 

Nails should always be perfectly manicured not too long because they can be threatening and no bright colours! French manicure is preferred, can be fake but lets pretend they are your own nails. 

Never leave the house without perfected hair and makeup or everyone will think you haven't made an effort, remember your beauty is your superpower. This is a mask to fool everyone.

Always wear clothes to suit your own body, don't have too much on show as it will draw unwanted attention but enough to be noticed. 

Remember make sure your waist and stomach are snatched to give the hour glass figure with your womanly curves. They represent you as a woman wholly.

These days you have to have everything so make sure you are well educated and successful but not too much because it will intimidate people. Don’t speak unless spoken to, it can be threatening to other men if you know more. 

Have a social life but don't spend too much time with them or you won't have time to find a partner.

Did you really just read all of that?

I hope that as a woman reading this you didn't relate to any of that but sadly you will have whether it being one or all. It wouldn't surprise me. The amount of societal pressures not only on the outside but on the inside only have gotten bigger. As women naturally we are judged not by choice but how we have been manufactured to be in society. With social media it only magnifies this more. We are pushed to see more of the ideal and let people decide what the ideal woman is. The ideal woman is realistic and some homework for you next time you leave the house: look around, do you see what you do on Tik Tok. No.

We are desirable beings to be admired and taken to complete a man's life. This is an old narrative which luckily for a lot of girls and women now we don't have to deal with half of it anymore. We are able to speak and experiment more freely. 

But there is still enough goings on and issues that we face all stemming from our looks and success. We were never allowed success but in this day and age we are, luckily from the powerful women in the past. Being judged by our appearance isn't dominantly from just males it is females too because we are in competition with each other from the pressure of society.

We all love a nice outfit to make us feel good and take photos and as we should. Flaunt your beauty but don't abuse these toxic patterns. Creating this facade to who you are. Constantly making sure our hair looks okay or making sure this skirt fits my body shape right, is exhausting.

Why do we care? What flipped a switch in our head to feel this way? Is it the male gaze? Is there a way out? 

I can happily say you don't have to be this perfect person all the time because it isn't real. As much as you think people don't, people want real and people appreciate real. Because there isn't enough of it! You are more than what you look like, you are where you like to go, the books you read and many more things that make you, you. It is the least interesting thing about you.

We have to remember as women we fluctuate in all paths in our life for example from a child to a woman then onto having babies and menopause our bodies are never fixed to stay the same. They were never supposed to, we are supposed to bloom in all our years to come. And guess what? It will definitely look different.

We always want the opposite of what we have because as humans we do. If you have curly hair, you want straight hair, if you were curvy, you would want to be petite. You can never win even within a battle with yourself, nevermind the rest of the world.

Whoever said that having all these things make you valued, only brings attention but does that mean value? No one has ever sat me down and said this, it is all an assumption and an attitude. A view of the world imprinted onto us and mostly a feeling of being half a woman if we have not met the criteria of being “her”. 

For a lot of women I know they wear certain things or have certain things done for self preservation to avoid hostile comments about how they look.  Which is another angle that even safety has to be taken into consideration. Strive to make a difference, take your power and put it into the things you love. See places, work and take up your interests which will make you evolve not only on the outside but the inside too. Most of them dress and enhance your beauty for you and because it makes you feel good.

You are not a checklist that needs to be ticked, remember you are human.