From a girl who moved out of her childhood home at 19 I don't think I ever processed what that meant.
No one ever mentioned that I would endure this sort of feeling and what it even felt like.
Everyone feels homesickness at different times within life and some may not at all.
That can make things hard when you want people around you that understand those feelings.
It is hard to depict what triggers these feelings and why we get them.
It isn't necessarily a need to go back home because you can still be happy away from home and have these emotions.
There can be feelings of emptiness, being lost and no familiar routine.
The feeling of emptiness when you used to open your door to your sibling jumping onto you and your parents asking you about your day.
Yeah of course you have your flatmates and university friends who fill the void but it takes time to build those relationships.
At first it can be the loneliest and sometimes not everyone finds people they will click with.
Having no routine or a familiar one can totally catch you off guard without even knowing.
You process a lot of emotions daily without knowing but sometimes when certain ones linger around it is our job to see what we can do to help ourselves to stop this temporary anxiety, stress or upset.
Whatever the reason is.
So when you feel that your only option of distraction it raises the question of what do I do?
Moving from home and leaning into your new normal is scary enough.
So to help these unsettling feelings always bring home comforts with you.
That could be doing them or bringing them.
For example comfort meals, tv shows, blankets or certain decorations.
Incorporating things from home will make your new home feel familiar.
We all don't realise how much that affects our brains and how we think.
Doing things there too will associate you to being at home too.
Wherever you move it is important to do what you would do like I used to visit the galleries in Sheffield often so that is something I keep up with in where I live now, Lincoln.
Next heighten your senses, burn those candles or wash your clothes in the same washing up.
Sometimes it can be shocking for our brains when we start smelling things completely different.
Being away from home you can feel out of the loop.
So keeping up to date with family and friends is so simple and like duh but when we get busy we can lose communication very easily.
And lastly, have your friends and family up to visit.
This is great to have them in your new space and create memories so everything isn't so fresh you get your familiarity back.
There are many things that we can do to help figure it out.
What is the hardest part?
Just to know it's not abnormal to feel like this when you move on and there's no guide to react.
They don't call it home sickness for nothing.
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