I would rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect.
I said it, I finally said it now we’ve all been there.
We’ve all had someone around for maybe a bit too long or maybe let them back in sometimes.
We realise after that by doing that our boundaries have changed and they have moved.
When I mean they’ve changed and moved, I mean in the place of what we would normally have put in place for certain people in our life.
We would keep them there to protect ourselves and to stop any sort of harm or upset from friends, family or relationships.
We do that to save ourselves.
Who wants to feel the same feeling twice and I don’t.
Sometimes it’s always that one person that we think we need and that we want and sometimes when things get a little bit rocky, we feel a bit lonely or we just start reflecting on the good parts of that relationship.
When the horizon comes we want to open them boundaries.
We want to think I know they will come back.
We think that we think that we know that person so we let them in our boundaries but it’s time to adjust, it’s time to get used to the fact they’re not around or they’re not going be around anymore because they’re not good enough for you.
Nothing is going to be the same as it used to be.
It is the most awful feeling thinking that things aren’t gonna be how they were when you were happiest but that is why it hurts so much because they were one of your happiest times.
That doesn’t mean you aren’t gonna have any happier times from someone else in your life because there’s so many people I’ve learnt that come into my life and have done this.
You never know what’s around the corner, you never know who you’re gonna bump into.
You never know when you’re gonna get a new job, you never know when you’re gonna move into the city.
The people that are going to have such a huge impact that will fill the absence within a second now, I’m not saying that everyone else was replaceable.
I don’t like to think of people as replaceable because I think everyone’s different in their own way and them being different in their own way.
I don’t want to replace someone who broke my heart with someone else similar to them because that is something and I don’t want to find again.
I don’t want to be friends with people that I have been in the past and replace them with them because they weren’t good for me, they didn’t bring out the best in me.
Not letting them break down your wall that you’ve tried to build for so long, is stopping them from disrespecting you.
To think that some of these people have the cheek to come back into peoples life when they’ve already disrespected them is something I will never understand because if I knew that I’d hurt someone or disrespect someone like they have myself I wouldn’t step foot near them.
I wouldn’t think I had the place to even message them.
The intention is there to understand that they think they know you, they think they know how you are. It's like again all of that comes down to disrespect because if they respect you enough, they would leave you.
They would leave you where you left them.
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