If you stay too long around people who treat you like you are not worthy of love, you will start to believe you are not worthy of love.
Now I’m not talking about the environment of nature, recycling or what you’re eating.
An environment I am writing about is about the connections and people that you are surrounded by.
The places you go and I never fully understood how important it is your surroundings and how they change how you view the world now as an adult.
I am sure that people will be like well "of course it does" whereas I never knew psychologically how it changed how I viewed myself, other people and the things around me.
Learning from my friends. I also have learned that your environment is important to how you view yourself.
Because people who surround themselves with negative people that are constantly moaning have always got something to say about another person, the gossip, especially young girls, we get wrapped up in.
When we are younger we don’t know any difference.
When we haven't really done anything for ourselves to understand what it’s like to be in a different environment, when people are negative and gossipy, you begin to take on them traits.
Then you carry them onto new people that you meet and for some they won’t tolerate that sort of behaviour.
They will not make connections with you and I have seen friends that have really struggled with their own self-worth because of their friends.
Which is sad because I can see how amazing that person is.
But because they are surrounding themselves with the wrong people, they start to think that:
Well I don’t look like these girls.
I don’t act like these girls and they don’t feel like they fit in and it’s not that they don’t fit in.
It’s because they aren’t the sort of people that are like them.
For example if you are around girls that look a certain way and are interested in all the same things and you simply aren’t ,you’ll find it hurts.
That connection is forced with them unless you are like them and it doesn’t necessarily mean that you should change because you should never change!
Sometimes you are made to feel like you have to change the fit in.
Which goes back to the whole validation of feeling like you’re not good enough because when you are around people that aren’t the same way as you and don’t want the same things when you make yourself do things like that you end up losing sight of yourself.
You lose part of yourself because you’re trying to be the part of them to almost fit in.
As humans, we do that.
We try to adapt to certain types of people so we don’t feel as uncomfortable.
But when we have the people that are within our environment that have similar mindset we blossom and we feel motivated to do whatever we want to do.
We get to see all the things we’ve always wanted to see and share interest and be passionate about things.
I think as a person who is heavily struggling with anxiety it is nice to be around people who are positive and see the beauty in the things around us.
Like pick up on the fact that the weather is nice, the people that go wow look at the moon tonight, want to giggle and have cocktails.
Go to galleries and go travelling and all these amazing special things which some people within selected groups wouldn’t be that bothered about, but to me are massive things.
I never had that until recently, feeling like you can open up and be yourself within your environment.
It will help you mentally feel more free because you won’t put on a show, you aren’t trying to adapt to what everyone else is doing.
There are certain situations where you have to adapt and you have to blend in a bit but don’t make that 30% be your 90%.
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