As we grow up, we realise that we have so many expectations for how people should act and how people should treat you.
How things should look, how things should feel.
Really what matters is first of all the expectations can ruin things.
The fact that you feel like you have to feel the same way in a situation or expecting some certain people to make you feel a certain way can just leave you disheartened.
These cycles end up making you feel let down and it’s not a nice feeling to have when you are expecting so much from people.
Sometimes it is just potentially the wrong people you are around or you are in the wrong spaces that don’t fulfill you.
Or make you feel like the way you feel you should or sometimes it’s actually you that creates expectations that no one else is trying to fulfill.
They don't have these expectations or are trying to make them.
For some reason you have this idea stuck in your head that things should be a certain way but realising you have to change these expectations into requirements makes all the difference.
For example expecting someone to be there for you and they aren’t there for you is a requirement.
You require that time, you require that trust and that person to be there for you and that isn’t a bad thing.
Being consistent isn’t an expectation we have for people, to be consistent to show up when you need them and to make an effort but actually it’s a requirement for you to feel that for you to have people in your life they don’t make you feel like you were at loose end.
I think changing the narrative from an expectation to a requirement changes the whole situation because I think you’re more selective with where you spend time and who you spend time with.
Because you are looking for that instead of thinking that someone else, or something else has to create it for you.
Where it is black and white and if you have that requirement to feel a certain way and to be treated the same way.
You have to put these steps in place and not expect everyone to show up every time and that if they don’t they’re not meeting requirements so they need to go.
I just think it’s a really great concept because it changes the seriousness of an expectation because an expectation has nothing at the end of it.
There’s no real vision even though you feel like there’s a vision it’s not always guaranteed.
Where a requirement solidifies that if it’s not that then it’s not the other thing, and that is not what you want and it is what you want.
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