Being the older sibling has become a trend on TikTok.
The mental side to being an older sibling,I didn’t realise how different me and his perspectives on life are just from who was born first.
How being the younger one or the oldest does affect you as a person and your outlook on things are so different.
As an older sibling I’ve always felt like I’ve always had to be the best but not too much.
Because I never want to make my sibling feel like they are any less, just to be a role model.
You have almost this responsibility to be constantly looking out and being there for your sibling, a protectiveness.
All these things, roles and traits that I feel like I’ve picked up being an older sibling is that it is felt that my job has now carried on into my relationship's with other people.
Like taking the lead and making decisions, I feel like I’m always the friend that does that.
It’s always interesting because the people that are the younger siblings seem to be the laid-back ones I have found.
Imagine if the narrative was switched?
Would he still be laid-back and chill?
And would I still be the high strung one?
It’s a question I’d love to know the answer to.
Being born first can be quite difficult as the light is shining on you first.
Feeling like a guinea pig, you know you have to be the best because you’re the first.
You set the lead for everything after.
My parents have never made me feel like I’m never good enough.
They’ve always been there for me.
They have supported me even if I did really badly at school or any decisions I have made.
They support me all the way but for some reason it is this feeling of being the oldest it is like you are this representative of who the youngest should be.
Sometimes that pressure can be too much and I think that’s why I put so much pressure on myself because I feel like I have to be the best.
But we all mess up, that is normal.
You could say that being a younger sibling they might feel like they have to do more because they have you to knock off the pedestal.
I don’t think it’s ever felt like that for my sibling.
I would never change the role that I play within my brother's life because I think there’s a lot of things that I have learned from him and a lot of things that he learns from me.
It is more precious than anything else but to remember that these little responsibilities and things that I have created within my head are the reason as to why we work so well together.
It is a part of my character and a part that I love.
That we have such a good relationship and I wouldn’t change that as much as I would love to be the chilled one sometimes.
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