Jealousy is a hidden streak within most girls, but why do some of us do it?
Partly society's fault but we can't just settle for that.
It is one of the worst traits because it can bring a side in people that wouldn't be present normally.
It has us questioning ourselves and can make us feel horrible.
Is it from feeling like everyone is better than us that we don’t look a certain way?
Our lifestyle doesn’t feel the same as others?
What are the triggers?
As a child we played games which means competition.
And competition teaches us and reflects into our lives.
People compete as women when we get older and we start to change and find ourselves.
With these changes it creates question marks around our heads.
Start deciding who we are in a sense of competition because everyone is different in their own way.
Trying to figure out what box we fit in is bad enough.
Different aesthetics, interests and personalities.
Social media jumps in every now and then to test us too.
All these labels don’t mean a single thing.
Takeaway the labels were all still women and we’re all still judging each other.
Having the same struggle should bring us closer and sometimes it does.
Some it can be the total opposite and create a divide.
Being in a competition of how our body looks, how our hair is styled and having that competition is so toxic.
It is no shock to anyone but we still think it.
I’ve never known a big group of girls all get on.
Being in school and having larger groups never ends well because as our bodies are changing through puberty we are insecure comparing each other's journeys as we all grow into our adult bodies.
I always find that girls all end up moulding into each other ending up looking the same creating this bubble of what a girl should be.
But really they are just hiding away and creating problems for the people that are a bit different and for themselves.
We need to be comfortable that everyone is different in their own way and that not everyone looks the same.
If we were more exposed to people being themselves and others looking different especially in women it wouldn't be as "shocking".
If everyone wasn't the same, we wouldn’t be bothered about competition.
I think men and competition is a whole other conversation, with the patriarchy.
You are way more valuable than faking it and trying to be someone else.
It is suffocating.
We all put people on the pedestal that we admire.
But normally not everything is always what it seems.
That they don't feel like they live up to their expectations and others.
We think let’s all be like her but let's change that.
There’ll be someone out there that loves you exactly how you are and wants to be with someone exactly how you are.
There was never a competition in the first place.
Because you’re only competing with yourself, that is who you are up against, not everyone else.
Trying to fit into these boxes is claustrophobic.
I hope you come out of the game and out of the game in a way that you can totally express yourself.
We all go on about how much we want a girls girl.
Let's not put ourselves or other girls down just for the sake of a little competition, let's lift each other up and make everyone feel better.
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