There are so many different types of burnout.
Empathy burnout is something that I never really understood and have always wondered that I have taken it on before.
As a friend who is there for a lot of my friends and always is the one that they can count on or help them when they’re in need I didn't realise I had experienced this.
I love being that friend and I love having people that can count on me as it makes me feel some sort of purpose in a way.
Sometimes what I don’t realise is when I have my own stuff to go through, work and education it can be hard to realise.
When you are giving so much and listening to their problems even though you feel like you might not be carrying them it can feel like it after.
It is like a social battery.
Someone can only take on so much.
It can be hard to find that balance but sometimes having a step back and that breathing space to not always having to listen to everyone’s problems and focusing on yourself is the best advice.
Knowing your limit.
It is a balance of how much you can take that day and how much of that is going to detriment your day.
Something that people don’t realise is that empathy burnout is happening until after when in the moment they actually feel quite awake and present.
It is hard to detach yourself from certain situations because obviously you want to care for your friends and you wanna be there for people but sometimes you have to have that fourth wall in between you and the emotions.
If not you will end up taking on emotional baggage of your own and other persons.
Once I went to a tarot reading and they advised me to have a wall between my emotions and others because I carried them as if they were my own.
I didn’t think that could be possible but then I realised that I do.
As soon as someone pointed it out it made me realise how much I was doing it.
Not only then I was getting confused with my own emotions because I was thinking, what am I actually feeling?
Am I feeling someone else’s emotion or am I feeling my own emotion?
The most important thing is to walk away and not carry the baggage as if it’s a rucksack full of little emotions.
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