Sometimes it’s okay to love people from a distance in order to protect your heart.
There are certain loves in our life and there are many different types that some never experience.
It’s hard sometimes to write about love because love is such a subjective thing to people, because we all know what it feels like and we all even just react to it differently.
We all have different needs, different expectations of what love should be like and how love feels for ourselves.
This can be from family, friends and people who influence our outlook on life.
They influence how we love.
I think as well when you love from a young age, you have no idea what you’re doing first of all which can be really hard because sometimes they are the hardest relationships.
As you’re learning a lot about yourself and then while figuring yourself out you are trying to figure out another person.
Whether you think you should be figuring it out is for you to decide?
Loving someone that isn’t for you is someone in your life that you really care about and not being able to love.
Because it would cause more pain than it’s worth is such a hard feeling to understand and for other people to understand.
Especially if they are a friend or someone where it isn’t quite as possible to have them in a romantic relationship.
I think it can be such a great thing for someone to do to love someone and care about someone that they know can’t have in certain respects.
But it can be painful without a doubt.
That person has to agree to themselves in a way that it is easier for them to be in your life than if they’re not at all from a safe distance.
In order to stop your own heart breaking.
I think having the power to do that is something that many people probably have felt.
When you have feelings for someone that you know you shouldn’t have feelings for simply because they could be not good for you either there’s different avenues that we could go down.
Having true love for someone like that is putting yourself on the line because even though you are protecting your heart in a sense you are not overstepping the boundaries, you are trying to not be so emotionally invested or emotionally attached to them.
Because you know that their intention isn’t the same as yours at that moment in time or that you know that it can't be like that.
It is a loyal sort of love because you will love them in spite of their almost rejection and the fact that you know that isn’t going to be reciprocated.
The fact you feel you will literally do anything possible to have them in your life and that isn’t that you aren’t respecting yourself because it’s having a boundary put in place in order to make you okay.
Everyone will have a different perspective to this but every situation can be different.
For example, if that person is bad for you, I agree to get rid of them.
It is not worth overstepping that boundary because the love of either friendship or what potential was can be so precious to some.
It is weighing between what's worth pushing and also it is a good reminder that if someone is meant to be in your life in that romantic way it will be.
You will not have to put boundaries in place and it will come to you straight away and it’s not to say that the other person doesn’t care about you, it just means that they care about you in a different way.
It’s important to remember that as much as you are protecting your heart you need to make sure you don’t shut your heart off.
There are people out there that want to get to know you and that will want to be your partner and want to get to know you on that level.
It doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you because that person in your life that you’re close with you know can’t love you.
You won’t have to protect your heart because you will put that old love and feeling into someone else that is good for you and sealed parts within them as much as you do.
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