Shock horror everything isn't suddenly valid because you have put it on social media.
Growing up in a generation of people who use social media at any given point it can be hard to find that balance of what is real and what isn’t.
Because obviously we take everything on social media as real because we think that it should look a certain way or feel a certain way.
But when social media is being used it is to show off our lives, the best bits.
And that has grown and grown over the time.
It has been abused to the point where we even use filters to make things look better.
Isn't life beautiful enough?
When we’re not using filters, we use a filter of posting stuff that only we want to post.
Being selective with what we want to post and who we even show it to.
Everything is crafted into making a post on social media and we all have complete control.
You can make yourself have a certain aesthetic that you want to have.
It is like real life Sims.
You can create an idea of yourself and almost manufacture yourself in a way that you want to be shown.
That is not from other people's perspective.
As humans and people we don’t like to have no control over how people view ourselves.
We want them to think of us in a certain way.
Some people don’t care which is great and how it should be.
I have moments where I kind of spiral with it but then in normal everyday life I’m okay with it.
To be that chilled out about that you can’t control something is pretty impressive.
Social media creates validation and in so many different ways.
People have validation from social media because they recognise them as doing something good, they look nice or they’ve got something new.
That feeling of people liking, commenting or messaging you about something that you’ve posted, that validation can fulfill someone for five seconds.
When I was younger that is how I was before seeking the next person to like, comment on messages which is pretty crazy because it’s short lived validation.
In the end it becomes a long-term need because you’re constantly relying on people on social media to give you this validation.
We don’t even know these people, we don’t know how they spend their day or what they do in their spare time.
Who they truly are because we’re just looking at a projection of what they want us to believe.
It can give long-term effects of seeking validation from people that don’t really know and making you rely on that validation that doesn’t mean much to you compared.
It’s not posting which is a crazy concept to think that there used to be a time where people would go out of the house without a phone, without even telling anyone where they are.
They lived and engrossed themself in the moment, people, atmosphere and the place itself.
Whereas now it’s like some people can’t even go for breakfast and not take photos without it being worthwhile.
If it’s not posted it’s not happening.
Some of my best nights out, best days, best times I barely have any photos.
I’m a person who loves taking photos, loves videos and wants their career to be surrounded by it but I have this balance of where I know what to film and what picture.
I know when to be in the moment because I think if you’re only doing something because of how it looks it is a waste of time.
You have to sit back and think is this actually how I want to live my life.
Do you want the power of an app to make you feel a certain way?
For example, I was speaking recently to my friend and we spoke about how I don’t think people really understand how important and how much of a big impact our friendship is to me just because I don’t post it.
Which is living proof that from social media I feel this way.
My close family and friends know how important they are and I love how social media is a great place to show off and make your friends feel good.
There is so much great in it.
But I think if it’s not used correctly it can be really dangerous.
Not even dangerous for yourself but dangerous for the people who are struggling who aren’t having a good time in their lives and don’t look exactly how it should look on paper.
My advice for anyone who is kind of struggling in the cycle of social media is to just give it time and a little bit of time like learning to live without social media.
Having those breaks which I know is difficult.
Trying in the morning not going on your phone and scrolling because that was the first thing I would do in the morning.
Why is that my first priority when getting out of bed instead of having a drink of water or just looking out my window?
There are big bigger priorities.
Starting your day off scrolling is almost setting your day up already.
Even just putting on a TV show, or reading.
As someone who is on a University course that is so dominant with social media, keeping up with everything.
I still don’t want to spend my time sitting on my phone because number one I don’t want to do that all the time and number two there isn’t much going on out there like in people's personal lives.
Once you take a step back from everything else you realise how much is actually going on and nothing is really going on.
You become more mindful and more thoughtful to how you’re spending your day instead of scrolling, looking at what everyone else is doing.
You will feel a difference.
Never be dependent on anything to make you happy and only depend on yourself to make yourself happy and if social media is one of them, remember that there has never been anyone that has not been on social media and come away unhappy.
You feel more free, you feel a lot happier and the confidence gained within, that is something that no one can feel apart from you.
There are a lot of perks to the electronic world.
Just make sure it's a healthy world for you.
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