Growing up, I never really realised how people aren’t always supposed to stay in your life.
Whether that be through friendships, romantic relationships, work colleagues, neighbours and family.
Or even just losing someone with grief.
This blog post is about how not everyone is supposed to be in your life forever in an aspect of they can be here for a season.
They will set their purpose for what you need at that time.
For example, for myself, someone who I had in my life for a couple of years was in my journey as a teenager and taught me a lot of love within myself and even though that was taken away it made me learn a lot about myself with their absence too.
I believe the universe has a picture of our journey and how it should be or how your journey will be.
Sometimes it’s hard to agree with what cards you are dealt but I like to trust either redirections or reason no matter how the situations are I have to be faced with.
Having to move from that person that you thought would be in your life forever is hard because everyone wants someone to be permanent in their life.
We all want stability.
No one likes uncontrollable change.
I’ve never met anyone that likes change and I know for a fact that we only like change if we choose it.
We have to choose when people aren’t good enough or when people aren’t aligned with us.
Everyone is on a different path.
They either work with yours or not and you can't beat yourself up over it.
Different paths can be in our careers, where we live and what we’re doing.
Some people stay in our lives and some people don’t.
That’s because they don’t serve you a purpose anymore and it’s fine to miss them and it’s fine to want them to be in your life.
I feel there’s some sort of closure that comes with it, knowing that they don’t have to be in your life forever.
And you don't have to feel fulfilled or that you are missing out.
On the flip side you never know who might come back.
I have friends that have left my life and we’ve come back together, because at that time we weren’t supposed to be in each other’s lives.
Having this loss opens more doors for more people to come in and be present in that part.
You can make new friends and have new opportunities with work or your life.
People are stepping stones too.
I really have always loved and resonated with the fact that ending things isn't always a bad thing.
I know I’ve already said that it’s not a bad thing to lose people, but when things end, I think we connote that it is a bad thing and it isn't necessarily.
For example, when you watch something it will always end but you know you can always go back and watch it again.
That’s the same with friendships and relationships you have that haven’t ended on a bad note that if you needed them you could go back to them.
You can always ask to see them again, but right now isn’t the time for them to be in your life.
It’s not always about trying to keep love as a longevity thing.
It's about that time you needed that love from someone and they gave it to you and gave you the happiness you needed.
Now it’s for you to move onto a different type of love whether that is from a romantic relationship or to finding love within friendships.
Having a solid group of friends in your life that make you feel good.
And maybe losing that romantic relationship held you back from accessing love from people within your family and the quality time with other people.
We change as people in our personality as we grow up and especially from a young person's perspective, going into your 20s and even going into your 30s, growing up.
When the day comes to have children, having a house and all these big milestones that hopefully we all get to achieve one day, we change because our world that we see around us does.
Our priorities change all the time and what we want out of it and that is to say the same for people.
If we’re changing with ourselves what is to say that the people around us aren't going to too.
That’s why we have to hold onto the memories and remember that only because something ended, didn’t mean we failed.
You aren't a bad person because you took control and doesn't mean that they are a bad person either for leaving.
A good person lets go of what doesn't serve them.
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