A very difficult one that sometimes we don’t even realise that we are doing is watering dead flowers.
I love this whole quote and I thought deeply about how I have received that in my head and how I feel about that message too.
I think for me personally it developed into the people in my life that now in the season I am in,
I have lost connections with and are on different paths etc.
We are both living our lives and just trying to survive at this point.
The idea of people fading out of your life and that they don’t always have to be a permanent part.
It doesn’t disregard how much time and effort there was or the memories you’ve made because they are what you needed at the time whether that was for fun, laughs, cries or adventures.
Each other's environments change and it can feel forced when you are in two complete different places.
You feel like you have to go out with them because you work with them or they’re on your course or are friends that you live with.
When you make surface level friendships they can be quite disheartening and for someone who is quite deep and wants meaningful connections.
They are the people that’s around you at that moment in time.
You can have them in your life but you don’t have to put your heart and soul into it if the connection isn’t there.
Sometimes we cling onto people because we’ve known them for so long or we shared so much with them.
Think of it as a little locket where you’ve made memories together.
Those secrets, insecurities shared and laughed at all of the amazing things that you created within those friendships.
They will still be there when you get back to them.
They just won’t be new, they’ll just be present within us.
They keep them too and they won’t damage them, they won’t throw memories away because they let you into their life and people stick when feelings are involved.
They put the effort in to see you, to spend time with you, to listen to you and gave their time to you at the end of the day.
It goes both ways and even though the flower may have died.
The flower can come back but it’s all absolutely okay for it to go for now.
Whilst we’re putting effort into things that are as worthwhile as others we are losing sight of the things that we need to put the effort into.
And you can decide what that is.
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