I’ve spoken about healing quite a lot because it’s something that I’m going through and have gone through.
When I think I’ve got to a certain point in my healing journey, I will be faced with those situations and realise I’ve actually healed from that.
In reality there are times it'll come and hit me like a brick and I’ll be back at square one.
But really I’m not back at square one.
The main thing that I want to talk about within this healing blog is the fact that time does heal and when someone told me that when I first was going through my issues, it was the worst thing anyone could have possibly told me.
I would hope that if anything were to happen again, someone would say that to me again because it is the purest and rarest advice to be told.
Because it is true time does heal and as much as we don’t want to be told that because we want a quick fix and want something to be fixed straight away because who wants to feel rubbish for such a long time.
Who wants to be crying?
Who wants to feel all these horrible feelings?
You want it over and done with and we want someone to tell us that will happen.
We want a step-by-step guide because as people we like to know what we want to do.
If you don’t, can you please give me some tips because I want to know how to go with the flow.
When you are in a rocky place or going through something, you just expect every day to feel like crap.
You expect every day to have certain feelings and at some point you will be put in a position where you would normally have reacted a certain way.
You may be triggered by something, you don’t know what could happen.
You never know how much work you have been put through till you are faced with a situation.
It isn’t half as bad as the first time and you think wow, I would’ve reacted like this or I would’ve felt this way about this.
You realise that however many months, years, weeks, however long you’ve been healing from that thing you learn from yourself, what triggers you and how to deal with it.
Maybe it might be better?
Time does heal with things that we think we could never get over like.
I think the only thing that isn’t included in that is grief because grief is so subjective to people and I think that grief is something that you can feel and you can feel over and over again and I don’t think ever truly goes.
I mean to some people it might, but I think grief is something that runs throughout your life because when that person has meant a lot it can be hard to get over the thought.
They’ll be moments where it is hard and I think that time helps.
Every day my Mum used to say that if you’ve got through today you’re one step closer to healing and I was like I just don’t want to hear that because I still just feel like crap and then could even feel worse the next day.
But really actually was mending me more because I was having to put up with more and more feelings of upset and sadness.
Some people don’t believe in healing and I understand that.
It is quite hard for me to understand as well because I feel like we are all healing from something whether we realise it or not.
It is so different for everyone and situations are so different depending on that person and my one thing that I want for anyone struggling is to not put a timeframe as to when you should be healed.
Because that is the worst thing you can do if you are expecting to feel okay after three months because some Tik Tok or a stat or some girl on the street told you that’s exactly how you’re gonna heal.
You’re gonna get over that thing that went wrong or didn’t work out for you.
That will put yourself in a pressure cooker where you think something should be the way it is and we have enough pressures so don’t pressure yourself into having a timeframe as to when you should feel good.
If you don’t feel good in that situation that’s fine too because that is part of your journey,
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