Have you ever seen something in someone that they can't see?
Whether that be beauty, intelligence, growth or in the future.
There are two angles to unrealised potential one being in yourself and when in love.
Today I am going to talk about unrealised potential when you're in love.
When you fall in love with someone you see all the parts that they don't and even see past the bad things you would normally see in the people around you.
Everything around them is bubble wrapped because that is what love does, you become blind in a sense.
And as humans when we love something we want it round either forever or a while because who wants to lose something that makes them feel good?
But that is not realistic in life because things do come and go.
When we meet those people we picture our lives with them.
We think about when we are seeing them next before we have even finished the time we are having with them.
When feelings get deeper your hopes become foundations as to how things are going to be, answering questions about them and expecting them to follow through because you think so much of them.
That being meeting your friends, going travelling, bringing them home there are so many scenarios that you can tick off.
As time goes on, you grow as people and you change.
Or they could have always been that person you just didn't know at the time.
It can be one of the worst forms of heartbreak when you see so much good in someone but they can't see for the trees what they have in front of them.
I know many people who have had these ‘perfect’ relationships and don't make it.
It seems to be the biggest shock of the century and then it all comes out that one person of the two that couldn't pull their own weight.
It’s sad but in reality, because the other person built them up into ‘this ideal person’ in their head
it influences everyone's views on them too.
Creating this ‘expectation’.
An expectation they cannot fulfill and you will never know why.
You know why really, it is because they don't see their potenital in themself and with you.
Many people get into relationships with people and don't realise the consequences until after.
Leaving them realising what they had.
Then it's too late.
It shouldn't take a break up to realise you had it good.
When we form these connections at the start we shouldn't romanticise them to a point where we settle, be picky.
Lowering our own expectations only allows the other person to shock us and make us think: wow you aren't like the rest?
Having no expectations that they have to be this person you have in your head, helps ditch the expectations.
And only to fall in love with the least expected person, forming a connection that is based on trust, friendship and love.
From my own personal experience I had the unconditional young love but as we grew up I didn't know at the time that I assumed we were on the same wavelength.
It made us grow apart because we weren't on the same page and that's okay.
I saw so much good in him that he couldn’t see and still do.
It used to hurt at the time that he couldn't, but that wasn't my responsibility.
They are the sort of people you would love to shake and make realise everything that is around them is good but when their head isn't in it, it's completely irrelevant.
You feel like you know them until you don’t at all and if you don't, you wonder if anyone else does.
I think when all you want is that person you will do anything to have them even if it's breaking your own heart.
You are completely entitled to want more, that's okay.
Who doesn't want that whirlwind romantic, cause I do?
People have expectations because that's what they want and deserve, as they should.
They have them for many reasons, one majorly being because they have been wronged in the
past and want to avoid it again.
But meeting these types of people can make us feel like we aren't enough and that’s not the point at all.
Doing more for someone isn't going to make them love you more or make them owe you anything.
It just lowers their respect for you because whether they know it or not, they know you will still be around after.
It's completely in their control whether you think it or not.
Always tell yourself the bottom line: you don't want something that is making you feel or think like it doesn't want you.
Don't put someone on the pedestal if you aren't on it too, you deserve to be shown off and to have consistent love.
Not love that decides when it fits best so you have to make excuses in your head for who they are.
Attract what only wants you.
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