With the world these days hopeless romantics are rare, it's harder to find someone out there that will buy you flowers than it is to find someone who will ghost you, when they are out with their friends.
This has been normalised because we romanticise that bad boy/girl culture because we know they aren't good for us.
We hope that 'we can change them' and they 'have a soft spot for us' but in reality we are just lowering our standards and not seeing the true beauty of what love is.
The thrill only lasts so long until they get bored and so do you.
Surprising you at the train station, buying those favourite sweets 'just because' and listening to each other's hard times is what love is, not wondering where someone is and how someone is going to act everyday.
We seek problems because that's what we have been used to in our first young love, the cycle continues and we wonder why.
Why do we keep attracting the same people?
What can't people see that I can't?
What are the red flags?
Breaking the cycle takes time and thinking about your own decisions instead of jumping from one person to the next.
Everyone has had that one person they know isn't good for them, that's normal.
It's an amazing lesson of self love and to realise how amazing you are because why should someone make you feel like you aren't enough just because they can't sort through their own baggage.
Situationships are glamorised all over social media and we can laugh at memes and tik tok for a second but in reality the humour wears off when we walk out of the door.
It's not good for us or the other person answering for our actions either.
The horrible saying of 'the nice guy comes last' is a reality that should be a myth.
The 'nice guy' can make you laugh, listen to you and go on adventures with you but instead you keep going towards the person that picks you up their car because apparently that's all your worth 'isn't the one'.
Everyone's journey finding their person is different in many ways, how you meet, where you meet hypothetically it doesn't matter.
What matters is your happiness and self worth is more important than boosting some person's ego every once in a while.
Fall for someone who you never have to guess how they feel and give you the love and care you need because if there is anything in this world we all deserve, it is love.
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