Don't go back.
You hear me?
Do not go back.
There will be so many things that the person fills your head up with and I am sure we all want to hear all the promises and all the plans.
Many will walk away from the advice and go ahead and take the plunge.
It takes a lot to go back to someone that is bad for you.
A lot of trust and strength to be able to be around someone you know isn't good for you.
Does this mean that it is still the right thing to do for yourself and even them?
This all depends on personal preference.
I could stop there and leave this blog post but I am here to tell you from a girl that has tried.
And I mean tried.
Now I can’t say for sure, they might change, they could.
They could change overnight and be a better person and be there for you and be the person you want them to be in a relationship.
I do know people who have ended things and have got back together and it's worked.
A lot of time went into it and the problems they faced before weren't detrimental to making the relationship work.
Whereas betrayal and losing trust is something for a lot of people once lost can never come back.
This doesn't have to relate to romantic relationships.
This can be friendships, family or even yourself.
I read a book about love and healing which made me realise a lot about my own past decisions when being in love and trying to heal from it.
I saw a quote saying that you can’t heal the cure with the disease.
Meaning when you are ill, you don’t treat yourself with that illness you have the medicine or whatever it is to heal that wound or to heal the illness.
So the thing that broke you is not gonna be able to fix how broken you are.
The person that isn’t good for you isn’t going to make you feel better because when they are not good for you again, how you felt before is going to be 10 times worse because you can’t heal from something that is constantly pushing you back.
For years I thought the feeling of loneliness and the struggles of self confidence would be cured by having them back in my life because when I had them around those feelings I never felt.
But after contact with them I realised I actually didn't need them to fix those parts because I actually had moved forward and healed from those emotions.
You do think it's what will fix you but it is actually the thing that is making you go back.
You will constantly be in this cycle of persuading yourself having them is better than not and doing this changes your mindset whereas if you tell yourself you don't everything does become clearer.
Some people have to face the person to realise and that's okay it does feel like you have some sort of closure.
Everyone's journey is different and we all have to do things to figure things I know for sure I did.
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